Evolutionary Men

What’s the Emotional Age of Your Anger? (with Alistair Moes)

Evolutionary Men — Tue, 25 Aug 2026 20:39:53 +0000

In this episode I invite Alistair Moes, who has operated his own anger management practice for over 31 years and has worked with more than 15,000 men and women, to discuss what truly occurs in the body when anger takes over, why many of us either explode or shut down and label it handling things, and what it means to meet conflict from the adult inside you rather than the wounded kid. We explore the family patterns that shaped each of our approaches to anger, and the practice that reveals which one is actually in control at any given moment.

Moose Anger Management

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Daddy Has Tantrums Too

Evolutionary Men — Fri, 14 Aug 2026 16:57:30 +0000

In this episode I break down the moment I lost it with my daughter over a coloring page, the sharp voice, the walk to the car when I realized what I'd just done to her. I get into Dan Siegel's hand model of the brain, why your kid feels your nervous system more than your words, and where you're supposed to put that charge when your family isn't the place to dump it.

Join us Monday August 24th for Rage & Anger: How to Wisely Channel Your Power as a Man Build your space to bring your tantrums in The Heart of Shadow Men's Group & Retreat

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Shadow Work for Regaining Your Power

Evolutionary Men — Tue, 11 Aug 2026 17:15:51 +0000

In this episode I'm joined by Dr. Luke Adler to talk about shadow work for regaining your power, especially for nice guys who've gone allergic to their own force and desire. We get into the difference between power over and power under, why so many men carry a clog in their body around their center, and how father wounds shape our relationship to anger and protection.

Join us in reclaiming your power in The Heart of Shadow Men's Group & Retreat

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She Feels Your Tension Before She Feels Your Hands

Evolutionary Men — Fri, 07 Aug 2026 18:05:42 +0000

In this episode I get into touch, why it lands or falls flat with a woman, and what her body is already reading in you before your hands ever move. I break down the physiology behind it, your breath, your nervous system, and the different kinds of tension that decide whether she melts into you or just tolerates you. I also get into my own history with touch, which wasn't pretty, and the frame I now use with the men I coach around all of this.

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Why You Feel Like You’re Not Driving Your Own Life

Evolutionary Men — Thu, 30 Jul 2026 11:00:00 +0000

In this episode I break down what's happening when life looks fine on paper but you feel like you're not the one driving it. Losing direction is nearly inevitable once the track (school, career, mortgage, kids) runs out, and you can't think your way back. I walk through the two compasses I've watched work in hundreds of men's lives, the practice men have used to read them for thousands of years, and the one place none of us wants to look.

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Why Would She WANT to Have Sex With You?

Evolutionary Men — Thu, 23 Jul 2026 15:24:57 +0000

In this episode I get into the question most men never ask, why would she want to have sex with you? I break down Rosemary Basson's research on responsive desire, why her wanting often arrives through connection instead of before it, and what it actually takes to be a man she can open toward. I talk about tending your own nervous system, learning her warm up sequence, feeding the connection all week, and the real difference between reaching for her from tension release versus reaching for her by name.

On air I taught the first half of a bigger map. The full teaching, both axes, all four engines, her side of the grid, and the three ways reaching for her goes wrong, is written up here: The Two Engines of Desire.

What to expand your capacity as a lover? Learn from touch coach Elizabeth Anneka about the power of breath for good sex by signing up for How to Touch Women: It Starts with Your Breath Workshop on Monday, August 10th at 5:30pm Pacific. $97.

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How to Touch Women (with Elizabeth Anneka)

Evolutionary Men — Tue, 14 Jul 2026 10:03:00 +0000

In this episode I bring on touch coach Elizabeth Anneka to break down why so many men have the desire to please a woman but not the skill. We get into her bullseye mismatch concept, the difference between penetrating and receptive states, how to keep touch alive once it's gone stale in a long term relationship, and the power of breath to guide it all for men.

Learn from Elizabeth about the power of breath for good sex by signing up for How to Touch Women: It Starts with Your Breath Workshop on Monday, August 10th at 5:30pm Pacific. $97.

Learn more about Elizabeth at https://www.howtotouchwomen.com

Prefer to read? The distilled version is on the blog: How to Touch a Woman: Start Outside the Bullseye and Follow Her Breath.

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Inside Folsom Prison: The Hardest Men, The Deepest Work (with Gethin Aldous)

Evolutionary Men — Fri, 10 Jul 2026 10:01:00 +0000

In this episode I'm joined by Gethin Aldous, co-director of The Work, the award-winning documentary shot inside Folsom Prison. We get into what happens when the hardest men in the system sit in circle and let themselves break, why prison cuts straight through the judgment that men's work is soft or goofy, and what it awakens in the men who witness it. If men most people have written off can go this deep, so can you. Go watch the film, then do your own work.

Watch The Work on Apple | Youtube
Gethin's Production Company MythoWorks
All Kings NY
Inside Circle

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